The Kid’s Corral incorporates the research-based discipline approaches from the Love and Logic programs. Below is an excellent article from one of their founders, Dr. Charles Fay
Don’t Raise an Entertainment Junkie
January 15, 2021
This past Tuesday we had our virtual event, Parenting in Uncertain Times, which featured Dr. Daniel Amen, Tana Fay, Charles Fay, Ph.D., and Jim Fay. If you saw this event, you might recall their discussion about electronic devices, such as phones and computers, and the effects these devices can have on kids.
Children who’ve spent their first few years of life being entertained by these digital devices can grow up lacking critical skills for success in school. That’s the bottom line. Children who have spent years playing in the sandbox, coloring with crayons, chasing butterflies, and stomping around in mud puddles have been given a great gift. The skills they develop through these simple yet important activities will foster success from preschool through graduate school. That’s the good news.
Unfortunately, too many loving, intelligent, and well-meaning parents have fallen into the trap of believing that “good parents” must keep their children entertained and stimulated each and every moment of the day. When they see their children getting “bored,” they quickly intervene with a digital device or an exciting, fun activity. As a result, their youngsters spend way too much time pushing the buttons on exciting electronic gadgets, staring at television, and riding in the car from one activity to another. Sadly, little or no time is left over for just running, playing, and being creative.
Children who’ve been constantly entertained
grow into adults who are constantly bored.
Love and Logic parents give their kids an advantage in life by understanding that children need plenty of opportunities to find themselves in a rather dull or “boring” situation. Why? Because these situations encourage youngsters to develop and practice creative ways of entertaining themselves and exploring the vast and exciting frontiers of imagination and creative problem solving. Where would we be today if Benjamin Franklin, Albert Einstein, or Thomas Edison had grown up believing that it was another’s responsibility to be creative and keep them entertained?
Because they know the importance of creative play and exploration, Love and Logic parents have plenty of “Boredom Training Sessions.” As you can learn in our audio, Four Steps to Responsibility, a Boredom Training Session follows these steps:
- Step 1: Plan for providing dull periods in your home.
- Step 2: Provide plenty of materials and toys that foster creativity.
- Step 3: Pray that your child will come to you and say “I’m bored.”
- Step 4: Place primary responsibility for solving this “boredom problem” on your child.
- Step 5: “Notice and describe” when your child is playing independently.
“You built that by yourself?”
“That book looks really interesting.”
“You turned Teddy into a monster.”
“I noticed that you made three pictures.”
You’ll be amazed at how brightly your child’s eyes will shine when you apply this step!
Thanks for reading!
Fay, Dr. Charles (2021, January 16) Don’t Raise an Entertainment Junkie (Post). Retrieved from: https://www.loveandlogic.com/a/info/blog